2nd Entry-Misinterpretation
She is wearing a new dress today. She has been waiting for his compliments, but he never did. She was about to walk away and through the corner of her eye, she saw him sticking his tongue out as though he is saying, " You looked terrible in this dress!". Yes, he must have thought that I'm ugly and I looked horrible no matter what I wear, therefore he has never given me any compliments for looking gorgeous and he always put me down in front of all his friends. She felt hurt and glared at him, saying "Did you stick your tongue out?". Then she storms away... Actually, he has no intention of telling her she looked terrible in the dress. He sticked out his tongue, simply to lick the stamp.
We all perceive our surroundings, experiences and situations differently. Our perception of an issue comes through the process of selecting, organizing and interpreting information. Many times we give personal meaning to the communication we receive. This explains why the lady in the picture, perceived the guy's innocent act of sticking out his tongue as trying to criticize the dress that she wore, when he never has the intention.
Therefore, it is so important for us to attend to or select the information that we received correctly. When we are heavily influenced by our past experiences (he has never complimented her for being gorgeous and always put her down in front of his friends), psychological state and environment etc, it is unlikely for us to make an unbiased judgement. This is where we will start to misinterpret the message that the other party is trying to send across.
Thus, we all should learn to manage our perception. One effective way that we can manage our perception will be through communication.
posted by Miss Dion @ 5:54 PM
9 Comments:
At October 8, 2009 at 2:21 AM ,
Anonymous said...
Good representation using the picture haha!
I think thats the difference between girls and guys. Girls tend to assume more and interpret more. Guys are more straightforward in their thinking so they will not think much before they act.
Maybe that's why we are different,(not only in gender)but also in the mindsets and perspectives.
I think to guys, girls' perception can be quite scary at times. Don't you agree? =)
At November 8, 2009 at 3:57 AM ,
YR said...
I agree that sometimes perceptiion can be marred by our experiences and culture and stuff.
But managing perception may sometimes be difficult due to maybe our subconciousness and we actually perceive things in a certain way before we can even stop ourselves. When certain perceptions become sort of natural , it gets difficult to manage or control it.
At November 8, 2009 at 4:38 AM ,
Nero said...
True...In fact, I have come to realize that although usually I wounld not bother about comments pass about how bad a particular person is. However, sometimes when I hear something bad about a person beforehand, I would tend to be more cautious went I am with that person and/or immediately feel that he is as bad as the comment passed about him
At November 9, 2009 at 3:07 AM ,
Danielle said...
So poor thing. I think sometimes people really have the tendency to complicates what is actually very simple. And that's where misunderstanding occurs. I think that maybe we can try to communicate in a clear cut, a more explicit way so to avoid misunderstanding.
At November 9, 2009 at 3:22 AM ,
XiangJun said...
Hmmm...I think that misintepretation is something that is really common nowadays. Especially for girls. Maybe sometimes we just think too much.
At November 9, 2009 at 3:39 AM ,
Stella said...
It's a bit over for the girl to think that the guy is actually trying to demean her or her dress sense. Sometimes it is being oversensitive that causes so much misunderstanding or misinterpretation of others action.
At November 9, 2009 at 5:18 AM ,
Joelle said...
Haix...why need to comment on the posts? Anyway, I think it is only natural for girls to be a little more sensitive. Sometimes it is not that we want to but actions simply speaks louder than words.
At November 9, 2009 at 5:54 AM ,
Ong Zhu Neng said...
Haha...ok...people might get the wrong perceptions and conceptions about what they see and hear all the time. It would help if they actually try to clarify what is being observed and said rather than make assumptions. However, there are certain outcomes which can be predicted on hindsight due to experiences such as body language and how a person is really feeling at the heat of the moment. Therefore, we have to be cautious of what sort of image we want to project to the public to ensure that they do not get the wrong idea.
At November 17, 2009 at 8:04 PM ,
Miss Dion said...
@ Commtalks
I think that from guys' perspective, it true that girls' perception can be scary at times. I feel that similarly, from girls' perspective, guys' perception can also be scary at times. I believe this is because of our differences in our thought processes and experiences. Thus, clear communication is very important.
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